I've been coaching for years, and the biggest thing I've learned - both for me and for my clients - is that knowing what you value is the path to success.
There are all kinds of strategies, ways of thinking, patterns of behavior, and practical tips for improving your life and feeling better about yourself, but they're all useless if the foundation isn't there. That foundation is YOU, you’ve got to know who you are. Do you know who you are? Where do you start? Start with making sure you know what you care about. What do you value?
Get To Know Your Values
Personal values are a big passion of mine and I can get carried away with myself when I talk about them. I make no apology for that though. Values are one of the most important things you can know about yourself and are vital in getting genuine inner confidence. Your values are ten thousand feet down inside you, right at the very core of who you are; and they’re the building blocks, the foundations, and cornerstones for you. A value is something you hold as worthwhile in your life. You cherish it more than anything else. It motivates you and drives all your decisions. Values could include things like: family, achievement, time freedom, and health.
Why is it that some people and situations leave you feeling angry, frustrated, demotivated or deflated? It’s because one or more of your values is being denied, suppressed or repressed – and you experience that as a negative experience because it’s denying a fundamental piece of who you are. You know those times when you’ve felt really alive, amazing or buzzing? Those are the times when one or more of your values are being honored, and you can get more of that by living according to them.
Your values are all yours, and no matter what happens, no one can ever take them away. You can have absolute confidence in them because they’re there all the time just waiting for you to notice and use them. When you get to know your values, you can start making choices and align your life around them. It’s so simple and it feels amazing because all that really means is that you’re allowing who you are to live in the real world.
So close your screen, get your journal out and start listing your values. Not an endless list, just your top 5. That way, you can keep focused and live a life truly aligned to what you find worthwhile.
Choose to have an awesome day!